An Attitude of Happiness and a Spirit of Optimism



I was raised with the saying, “Just give it time, things always work out.” 
That is true, but I always worried about HOW it was going to work out! 
Was it going to be what I hoped  for or was it going to be just bad.  

Well I have learned that however things work out there is a purpose and reason for it.  Whether it is for the overall good, a personal learning experience, or many times its just out of our control, then we just deal with what we must.  Its just called life!

The key it to all is to look a little closer for the good.   You can’t create anything good out of pessimism or cynicism.   Look for the sunlight peeping out through the clouds.  Being optimistic is the key to allowing the world to flow around you.  It is the key to seeing opportunities. 
Tragedy is always around us, YES!  Problems are everywhere, YES!  Yet there is much fun, joy and laughter in living, if we will cultivate an Attitude of Happiness and Optimism.

“Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed.  Most putts don’t drop.  Most beef is tough.  Most children grow up to be just people.  Most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration.  Most jobs are often dull than otherwise....  Life is like an old-time journey– delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders, and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed.  The trick it to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.”   – Jenkins Lloyd Jones

Believe in yourself.  Believe in God and his love for you.  Believe in your capacity to do great and good things.  There is so much of good and decent in our world, look for those things. 
Look for those people, just like you, who are trying to make a difference.  Who are reaching out with encouragement and love and making a difference in their lives as well and so many other lives around them.

Don’t let that bad day take you out of the game.  Don’t let the negative voices around you slow your progress forward.  Believe that no trial, struggle, or heartache is so great that you cannot survive it. 
You have infinite possibilities, You are the captain of your life.

Do it with a smile on your face, hope and optimism in your heart and happiness will never be illusive.

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Being YOU!

Have you ever seen someone that just struggles in social situations or someone who always makes everyone around them miserable or someone who is boisterous and brash; or how about someone who is so shy they can hardly speak, or someone that is afraid of social situations.

That is because you are not seeing the real person– you are seeing a mask they are wearing.  They have covered their real self, because of fear, anxiety or  lack of confidence, fear of judgment, unhappiness or shame.  There are many reasons.

“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.” -Alan Watts

Our true self is who we are when we let go of our stories, and often the false beliefs that accompany them.   Part of all of that is the ‘stuff’ we take on from other people.  We willingly carry their baggage as our own, believing that we are some how helping them, or that what we are being told about our self is true! To uncover our true nature and find peace and contentment with ourselves here are some things we can be more aware of.

LOVE YOURSELF
Have you ever watched small children?  You will notice that they are naturally loving and happy.  That is their true nature.  I have a beautiful granddaughter (many of them actually), that the moment she hears music, her hips start swaying, her head starts rocking and her whole little body is in movement with the music.  She doesn’t feel silly, shy or dumb.  She just opens her whole heart to the flow of music through her body.  She is confident in herself and just experiencing the moment to its fullest. 

Children are just pure love and light.  A hug, and “I love you” will quickly wipe away their tears.  They forgive immediately and offer love again, quickly. 
To open our hearts to love, we need to forget what the world around us tells us we should be.  Move passed fears of allowing the world to see us as we really are– and just be free and open, letting our true nature bloom.  You are so amazing as an individual, you are worthy of love from others and from yourself.

BE NICE TO YOURSELF
A scientific study showed that over 70% of our thoughts were negative.  From our earliest memories we have developed self-defeating mental patterns. 
Sadly a lot of that comes from our families and very early years of life.  Some say that by the ages of 5, and others say by the age of 7 that we have developed/ learned everything about ourselves that we need to know.

How many times have you said things like this to yourself:
“I’m so stupid”
“I’m not smart enough”
“ I’m just dumb”

Every single one of those statements are completely false.  I don’t care who you are!
Imagine if you said:
“I am really great”
“ I am fun to be around”
“ Others enjoy my company”
“ I have much to offer the world.”
“ I am smart enough”


Imagine a world of kind and supportive people.  (That may not always be our world)– but you can be the one to love yourself enough to lift and encourage others around you.

BE TRUE TO YOURSELF
In years passed I have gone so long ignoring myself because I felt obligated to others around me. Their happiness was more important than mine.  I realized that if I didn’t value myself,  why was it a surprise that others didn’t either.

You are hear to make a difference in your own life and in the world.  You are meant to follow those little ideas and nudges that are trying to tell you what to do for your own true happiness.
Don’t get caught up in being martyr for someone else’s cause.

Believe in yourself and when you are committed to that you will find that your inner self, your intuition, spirit, or soul.... whatever you want to call it, will guide you in the best possible direction.

Don’t be a victim, let go of your negative story!  I’m sorry to tell you this but we all have a story and if we can’t let them go they glue us in place and we can’t move on.   Now don’t get me wrong.... our story has created the person we are now.  That’s true, so we have to acknowledge it,  thank it, and for the most part let it go, so that we can now create our new story, full of happiness, hope, and joy.
 
So relax and let go of your own personal judgements as well as others that people throw at you.  You have everything you need to align yourself with the peace and happiness of your true authentically beautiful self. 

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Frequency
Did you know that we all vibrate at a certain frequency?
Did you know that the frequency that you vibrate at relates to how you are feeling and what is going on in your body, mind or even your environment?
Did you know that if your bodies frequency/vibration is to low then you will start experiencing disease.

Average Body Frequencies
Normal Brain   72-90 MHz
Human Body                         62-78 MHz
Thymus Gland  65-68 MHz
Heart    67-70 MHz
Lungs    58-65 MHz
Liver    55-60 MHz
Pancreas   60-80 MHz

Illness & Disease
Colds & Flu    57-60 MHz
Disease Starts   58 MHz
Candida   55 MHz
Epstein Barr   52 MHz
Cancer   42 MHz
Death Begins at  25 MHz

* Frequency/vibration applies to every thing, every cell in our body, every plant on the earth, even rocks and soil have a frequency. It also applies to sound, color, light, food, chemicals, pollutants .... everything. When parts of our body becomes stressed or diseased it is no longer at the correct frequency.

Here is something to think about:
Negative thoughts decreases our frequency up to 12 MHz
A positive thought can increase our frequency by 10 MHz
Prayer/meditation increase our frequency by 15 MHz

Dr Royal R Rife found that "every disease has a frequency. He found that certain frequencies can prevent the development of disease and that others may destroy them.

Things to do every day to increase our frequency...

Meditation: Calms our mind and relaxes our body. The mindful practice of breathing in and out calms and quiets us and lifts our thoughts, realigns our mental processes and invigorates our bodies. 5- 10 mins a day is a good start.

Keep Alcohol, Junk, and Caffeine to a minimum: All these substances pull our bodies and minds down. They jack us up too high just to let us come crashing down. Limit the use of these and you will find that your mind and body adapt and balance to its normal function. The over use of these can have serious negative effects on our minds and bodies.

Music and other Passions: Listening to beautiful music always lifts the mind and soul. It surrounds you with the vibration of the notes and melody. Not all music is created equal.... in other words different kinds of music create different moods, and effects on our bodies and minds.
Do you have a passion for something? Skiing, jogging, reading, painting..... anything that you love to do lifts your mind and heart. It brings with it excitement and purpose that causes our frequency to rise. Do something everyday that you love!

Healthy Food: As I said before good, clean food is so necessary to a healthy life. Its frequency is high and healthy. To eat an apple or carrot a day is to give your body the very essence of health that is needed in our very polluted worldly environment. Eating healthy foods helps with our weight as well as our minds.

Essential Oils: Are a wonderful way to increase our frequency very fast. They are made from the plant itself and if you buy a good quality oil their frequency is anywhere from 52HMz to 320 MHz
(frequency of Rose Oil). Other oils that are wonderful are Frankincense, Clove and Peppermint. There are a lot of different ones, be careful and learn how to use them for your best benefit.

Positive Thoughts: Our thoughts are either positive or negative. Therefore the frequency of those thoughts are either high or low. The more negative thoughts we entertain, the more the frequency of our body lowers. The opposite is true, the more positive in our thoughts and words the higher frequency we have, and the happier we can be.

Energy Work! : After all that is what this blog is about! Check out my website and if you feel inspired to do so, schedule an appointment. http://www.sheronnewman.com You will find that there is much that can be done to align yourself to the positive thoughts, ideas, and emotions that will raise your frequency.

Belief & Visualization

Belief & Visualization is a common yet under-used method to achieve the goals we hope that somehow, some way, will happen, sometime in our life.   It is a process of focusing your mind on what you want and then to feel it! To allow it! To believe!  To know that it is not only achievable but that it can and will happen, and it will happen to you!  Believe that its yours right now! It also takes repetition..... To change the beliefs of 'lack' and 'struggle'  from our DNA. 

You could say something like:  "I recognize that I am not living a life of abundance,  so I release this energetic pattern, allowing abundance of all kinds to flow gracefully to me."  You would say this 20 times a day, to clear this from you energy field (DNA).  I will not go into all of the  in's and out's of the processes.  Find yourself a energy practitioner who can help you release everything faster, and your on your way.  I will give you some links to listen too or to read about and you will have a fun time learning what you want to do with it.  

Many of the best athletes or celebrity's use these methods to achieve their goals.  Olympians learn to use the power of visualization to 'see' themselves win the medal.   This same thing can be used  by you and me.  Yes! we don't have to be famous, or wealthy or unique in anyway to have the ability to 'see' ourselves in the right job, or the perfect weight, or the right income bracket or any number of other hopes and desires we may have in life.

Here's a couple of examples:  

Jim Carey: When he first started out  Carey was just struggling to get by.  To stay motivated, he wrote himself a check for $10 million for "acting services rendered," and kept it in his wallet. Thanksgiving 1995 he landed the role in Dumber and Dumber and was payed $10 million for the part.     https://youtu.be/I0XGdBZrqk8

Will Smith:   "In my mind, I've always been an A-list Hollywood superstar.  Y'all just didn't know it yet."   He explains that anyone can achieve anything..... they just have to believe they can.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lb8IzI4ApI

Books:

Money and the Law of Attraction – Abraham-Hicks

Think and grow Rich --- Napoleon Hill

Farming & Life

Have I told you that we farm..... well we do, and this is one of the times of the year that we are busy, busy, busy!

The other day I was on the swather, that is the machine that cuts our hay crop.  I normally enjoy cutting hay, its just a time when I can go back and forth in the field and think about things without any pressure.  I can enjoy the view of the mountains and watch the clouds float by.   I enjoy watching the tall crop of green leafy hay being swept up into the 'header' and cut into rows where it will dry over the next few days and then my husband will come late in the night when the dew is just right and bale it into large ton bales.

Well that was not what happened on this day.  I started out just fine, back and forth, back and forth. Then I glanced in the mirror that lets me see behind me where I just swathed, and I was leaving a narrow row of hay that was not cut.  Then mud got gummed up in the knives that cut the hay, and more hay was left uncut.  I have to tell you this went on for 5 hours,  I had phoned and told my husband the problems so he knew that something wasn't right, but the hay needed to come down so he said to just do my best.  Its kind of  hard to explain all that was happening to someone that doesn't know farming so I will just tell you that by the time I was finished, the field was a mess.

Uncut hay sticking up all over, clumps and piles that had balled up in the machine and come banging out the back.  It was not my finest job!   Now this was a serious no, no!  because;  #1 It looks bad to have all those uncut pieces still standing in the field, after all, the neighbors fields around us are cut to perfection and we don't want them to think that we are sloppy farmers.  #2 It makes it harder to dry the rows when there is still green hay in the middle of it.  #3 Your husband will come out and say, "I thought I taught you to cut better than that... do you need me to take over?  Yeah that is the worst one.... I can cut hay with the best of them, as long as 'he' has the swather greased and oiled and aligned correctly.  And so when he says #3, well, then I have to bring up this little detail that, obviously he didn't do something right and so now look what was happening!!

Well that was what I expected that day. I could see as well as anyone that it was a mess.... then my husband drove into the field.  I turned the swather off and watched as he looked at the field and waited for me to get out.  He said, "Someday's just don't go the way you have planned, do they.  The good news is that this field will be as good as new again once the second crop has grown back."  Well I could have kissed him! .... I think I did!  Twice!

Life is like farming, there are days and weeks and months and sometimes years that come with unexpected events and trials.  At those times we look in dismay at the 'wreck' we think our lives have become.  "What happened?" We ask ourselves, "How can we deal with it?"  "What can be done?"

Its at those times we need to see things in the perspective that life goes on, that the sun will shine tomorrow, that it may be hard now but there can still be a light at the end.  I heard a quote once that said, "Rainbow's are made with rain and sunshine"  It takes the rain to come down hard in our lives sometimes to appreciate the sunshine and rainbow that it eventually produces.

So give yourself a brake, look hard to find the good, and always hope and pray for the strength to live each day better than the last.  The hay always grows back! and your life always has a new day. Express gratitude for that renewal and...... breath deeply..... enjoy the beauty of your life.

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ARE YOU ENOUGH?
Have you noticed that you are always trying to build your self-confidence?  That you are always unsure if you are important or worthy of a person's time and attention?  Do you look in the mirror and wonder if you will be able to do what is required of you that day?
Our individual worth seems to always be in question, (at least by us.)   Maybe there is a sense of not really 'knowing' yourself, of being uncertain and overwhelmed by the many responsibilities you face every day.  Maybe you feel like you don't fit in with your co-workers or maybe your wondering why you haven't found that one special person you can share your life with.  There are a million different things that can get in our way and become a stumbling block to how we view ourselves. Everything that surrounds us daily affects us for good or bad, it can be uplifting and gives us peace or it can be negative and drag us down.

Yes! we live in a time that there are battling voices; in our heads, in the world and in our homes.
We are often left with a fear that we can't see past the worry of this moment,we can't see past the trouble that's around the corner, we can't see past the fear that we aren't enough, smart enough, funny enough, pretty or handsome enough, wealthy enough, and in our quiet times we wonder......
"WILL I EVER BE ENOUGH!!"

The other day I stood in front of my mirror and struck a super-hero pose.... you know that one with your hands on your hips, head held high,  your legs wide and firm and that super-hero confidence exuding from your piercing gaze.  I looked into that mirror and said with gusto  "I am amazing, I can do anything, I have all the confidence in the world.  Bring on the day!!!"  
Ok, I felt a little better, but I knew that deep down I still struggled with the word 'enough'.
   
The energy of the word 'enough' is strong in positive and negative ways.  Its all about how we use it. "I am enough" is a strong and powerful statement, but "I'm not enough" is fearful and self-defeating.
We are all trying to use positive affirmations to train our minds into thinking that we are wonderful, amazing, wealthy, happy, etc.  And that's not wrong!  But I believe there is more to it.

It might surprise you to know that to improve your confidence and self-love, you need to look away from yourself and look outward.  Focusing outward and seeing others and the great need there is for your kindness and love is the most authentic expression of ourselves that we can give.   When you show kindness to someone your individual worth shines back at you from the eyes of that other person.  How do you feel then?  You feel Amazing!, you feel Happy!, you feel Confident!  you then realize you are Enough in that very moment.  When we are struggling with the perception of ourselves we tend to draw in-ward, as a protection, but to truly love yourself, you have to love others.

Have you ever known a person who is facing great trials in their life and yet is the first person to reach out to someone else in need?  Each of us have so much to offer, we have our own personal experience to share and empathize with others.  We have a shoulder for someone to cry on, we have a smile that can quickly reach out and touch a passerby.  We have ears that can listen and a heart filled with compassion and  love.  It can be addicting!  This crazy idea that to feel good about ourselves we should look for the need in someone else!  Yup! it sounds crazy enough to work!

Yes, life can drag us down, we all struggle with having confidence and being enough, but the more we shift our focus outside ourselves, we find that our internal fears are less pronounced and we can be the answer to someone else's prayer, and that will make both of us smile!

 GRATITUDE

Have you ever thought about how important a THANK YOU can be in some one's life.  It's a special thing to see the world and appreciate it, to see people around you and recognize their amazing uniqueness.
I watched two of my darling granddaughters the other day.  They were playing a make-believe game.  One gave the other a blanket and layed it over her legs.  The other said in a very prim and proper voice, "Thank you very much! You are too kind." The first one said, "I gave it to you because you look cold and I don't want you to be                                                            cold..... and besides that, I love you!"
How precious was their example to me.  Its so easy to get caught up in the problems of life..... there seems to be a never-ending supply of those, but when we let that negative mindset be our focus we are hurting ourselves, and those we love.  We become very ME oriented, we become grasping and complain that we are not happy, and that life is not fair all the while not seeing that we should look outside ourselves, to the wondrous beauty of the world.  We can have such touching and supportive relationships with friends and family and strangers we meet each day.  Have you ever been grateful for a unexpected smile from someone that you passed in the store?  Have you ever been grateful for a random conversation with someone you were sitting beside at the dealership while waiting for your car to be serviced?   When was the last time you offered a store clerk genuine appreciation for their kindness or service?
My husband often tells me how much he appreciates when I iron his shirts.  Yes, I know we are an old fashioned couple.... I have tried to teach him how to iron over the years but he seems to be all thumbs and, well, the shirts just look better if I do them.  Anyway, it makes me feel loved and appreciated when he makes these small and simple statements of gratitude.

In energy work gratitude is the power that causes all good and beneficial things to come to us. Being grateful for what you already have will attract more good to you.  What a concept!!
There are somethings we can do that will help us recognize the blessings in our lives.

*  Speak kind words to our family..... after all they are the most important people to us.
*  Enjoy the beauty of a sunrise, or the peace found in nature.
*  Complement someone for something, and find joy watching their reaction!
*  Express gratitude to God for your life and blessings
*  See how many times you can say thank you in one day.
*  Get yourself a gratitude journal and take 5 mins every night to write several things that you were
     grateful for that day.

Gratitude brings peace and beauty into your life.  What are you grateful for today?